Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

I obviously still love her, but all the things she has done/is doing, just disgusts me, and I am not sure I can get past it all.

Just as she's not in a place to feel remorse for what she's doing, you're not in a place where you can forgive her yet.

The important thing will be if and when she agrees to reconcile, and is willing to break off contact with the OM and work to rebuild trust. That's when you have to make the decision.