Kerry, you would be out for the season but since it's your first mistake, I will look the other way...
Ali, I really dont know what's gonna happen if she comes here. I will probably look my best and introduce myself to her. Smiling and happy. I may say something like "I can see now why H says you were a BIG mistake". That will make her feel fat, on top of everything else...LOL She is responsible for finding all the info for this guide they are making. She would have to do the research. Maybe she thinks she can do it over the phone...
Yes, he is still home with us. And I dont know what's gonna happen. Sometimes it is lonely, sometimes I feel waves of emotions coming "out" and my chest has a constant pain.
Writing the journal makes me see my obsessions. I mean, I need to start leaving things behind. But I will do it right. By facing them and not ignoring them. And he will have to do it with me or live without me. I guess...
Thank God it is Friday today!!!! I worked 3 days this week, it was more than enough!! K
I don't read as many books as you. I was wondering why you feel your H has to face YOUR obsessions with you? Another question is how exactly do we face an obsession and how do you do it with someone else. So a two pronged question: why and how.
In reading your posts, I'm reminded of what Jody told me about the stages: "Once you get to a point where you are piecing, you will find yourself very angry w/your significant other because you were the one who was working so hard to save the marriage. When you get here, remember to step back and take a break or you'll end up taking it out on the person you are trying to make things work with."
It sounds like you are here and may need some "space" whenever you feel angry and disappointed toward H.
Hadn't said hi for awhile. Sounds like you need to have a fabulous time somewhere and let go of some baggage. Tell him, "Let's go out tonight and have a fabulous time." Pretend like you're in Rome in 1963. Tell him he has to charm you into going home with him. Forget about OW - not worth the energy. Dwelling on her only keeps her in the picture. Build something new and make that the reality. Have fun creating new memories instead of letting the poison from old ones steadily sour everything.
Hi guys, hiya lodo, what's up? You are probably right, Rob you too. I think this is a process that I am going through. Like everything else we had to do here, there is no easy way out, no short cuts. The only possible way would be a lobotomy and that is a bit too drastic for my case. (I think)
The weekend was stable. Not any big ups and downs, we had a good time with friends of ours. H is seeking me out in the mornings for a kiss and hugs me sometimes at night. During the day we are "compatible" and get by.
Today we had a good discussion about something irrelevant to us but something we werent 100% on agreement and it went fine. Little things like that are what we are missing. Not being afraid to disagree and discuss in a civilised (lol) way. Very simple you would say but not so easy for us right now.
We also said something about the future. He is changing the little car and we said we should look into changing our kitchen cabinets and fixing our little bathroom. Didnt discussed these but WE made some kind of FUTURE plans.
The week that starts tomorrow will be the first full working one after the holidays. We'll see how it goes... Hope everyone is ok. K
The weekend was stable. Not any big ups and downs, we had a good time with friends of ours. H is seeking me out in the mornings for a kiss and hugs me sometimes at night. During the day we are "compatible" and get by.
All of this is very positive. Continue to build on this. Glad to hear you are talking about future plans.
Have a nice week back at work!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
