She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Serenity13]

(((Awoken)))

I just posted to you on my thread though I should have probably posted on your thread.

(((Hugs)))

[Awoken]

(((Serenity))) Thanks; I posted a reply on your thread, just cause it made more sense to keep it there.

[Awoken]

It's been a day since we talked to our kids about W filing for D.
They are coping in different ways, and of course I'm worried about them.

D17 has poured her energies into a new boyfriend. It's gonna be a complicated relationship for her, and she's really rushed into it. They made their relationship "official" last night, a few hours after we had our D talk. First, he's in college, and his mother doesn't approve of the relationship so he wants them to keep it hidden. I'm glad D17 tells me all about this, but I'm just worried she's making poor choices. It's not reall like her

S13 spent most of the day in bed, saying he felt sick. He's taking it badly, and is pretty depressed. I know he needs time. I left him alone most of the day, just checking in on him. I managed to get him to go out for dinner and to the grocery store. I told him I needed help with the errand, but I really just wanted to get him out of the house.

W left early in the morning to have lunch with her girlfriend, and didn't return until early evening. It's just as well. Right now, I can't look at her. I need to work on that; I just want to be cheerful and indifferent.

[CityGirl]

Your children will ALWAYS remember the "day after" you were there with and for them and their mom was out playing with her friends.

I know this is so very hard but you did the BEST thing you could have done today!

^ <--- high five

[Gardener]

Awoken,
I've pretty much been just a lurker here on your thread, but I thought I'd come on over and comment on something you said in a post over at Serenity's

I've been posting in other threads now, trying to "pay it forward" as Deep just posted. I worry about saying the wrong things, but then I just remember how many times I've wished for any reply just to know that someone was out there, so I post something.

I know I've said this many times, but it's true and bears repeating often, especially when we want to just know someone is out there (and when this board seems extra busy and populated as it has recently).

Look at your thread on the Newcomers list. Look at anybody's thread. You'll see the "Reviews" column and the "Replies" column. The ratio is almost always more than 10:1.
Even when people don't reply for any reason, they are there, lurking, reading along, commiserating, praying, learning etc.
To me, a "View" is an interest, almost as good as a "Reply."

None of us on this board is ever really alone.

And Serenity's right. When wisdom fails, sometimes a simple "Hang in there" can make all the difference to someone.

Hang in there, Awoken.

[Awoken]

CityGirl:
Thanks for that encouragement. Somehow I didn't even think of it that way. Right now my kids seem a little angry at both of us (especially S13), and I understand it. But you are right, in the end the will know I am here for them.

Gardener:
Thank you, again! You made this point to me once before, and it's been easy for me to forget it. I've even told others the same thing. Sometimes when I read a thread and I want to post, I just don't know what to say so I say a prayer for them and their spouse.

[Awoken]

So today, I've got a new lawyer to interview. This will be the third I've talked to, and I hope I feel more comfortable than I have with the other two. I think my W is preparing for a real battle, or at least her lawyers want her to.

[givingitmyall]

So today, I've got a new lawyer to interview. This will be the third I've talked to, and I hope I feel more comfortable than I have with the other two. I think my W is preparing for a real battle, or at least her lawyers want her to.

I hear Coach saying "You can handle it." And you can.

[January girl]

(((Awoken)))-
I'm so sorry you had to face that challenge this weekend.....
I hadn't read your post until this morning because I only come here from the work computer. You are being so strong--good for you. My dad always used to tell me (he's passed away) that just do what is right because the only people you have to answer to is God and yourself when you lay your head on your pillow at night. Just those words alone have helped me thru many a dark night in this journey. I'm hoping today is a better day for you.

On the bright side-now you have gotten thru "the talk"-you will never have to have THAT day again.

You are in my prayers-friend.

[Awoken]

((((JanuaryGirl)))

I just posted in your thread, and hadn't had a chance to check mine yet. Sound like we both had tough weekends.

you're so right, I never have to do "the talk" again. That's a positive that hadn't hit me until just now when you said it for me. For the past few weeks I've been preparing for it, dreading it, obsessing about it really. I just realized that the burden of it has been lifted from me now; I've passed through it and did my best to do right. I can do the other days ahead of me too.
Wow, and thank you!

it's funny how these lessons just come on us at different times. Serenity gave me a great post about how we all help each other here, even unwittingly. At the beginning of my sitch, I really thought that my faith in god was going to be extinguished, and I'm finding it getting stronger everyday.

Thank you for your prayers. You and your H are in mine as well.