Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[TrentC]

I'm asking because I'm trying to get a feel for what things were like beforehand.

It sounds like, if by some miracle you get to the point where you can work it out, she needs to work on truthfulness. Not just about where she goes and what she does, but the things like the bill paying.

How was she about you getting deployed? Some spouses, oddly enough, resent their SO's getting deployed, even though that's pretty much in the job description.