Marriage Hanging by a Thread

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Hi GHM,

Just popping by to lend some support. Many here may view your sitch, and although you may feel alone, there are people rooting for you. We may not have much sage advice on top of what has already been offered to you.

Do take up Puppy's advice to read Dane's thread on the tactical aspects of intel gathering. FWIW, my take is you really gotta start working on you, detaching from your W's choices, and making yourself the better person. Don't mind read, and watch that inflammable resentment that seems to be building up. Remember what your goals are, and focus on what will help you achieve them.

Gathering that intel is also a vital part of the "working on yourself" bit. You've owned what happened in your M dysfunction, that's great. Stop berating yourself for that. You will have read that it's important that you LIVE detachment and GAL, not just act it. Using your past faults to justify and try and understand in your own mind what your W is doing will not help that, it may even validate her in the wrong way. About time you get your ammo ready for her to own her part in what's happening.

Good Luck!