Let me re-phrase... C knows about H's A, but H didn't know she knew. It didn't seem relevant to bring up in our session because it was focused on DD and how to handle telling her. But I did share on my initial phone call.
H has agreed to go back to C again tomorrow, but he said I was forcing him. He said he didn't like this C or the marriage counselor. Most likely because he is hearing things he doesn't want to. I told him to find one then that he did like.
He said I am forcing him because I told him I won't talk anymore to him about important things without a counselor or mediator because the slightest questions turns into an argument. It happened 3 times just today. Each time I ended it and walked away. The last time was tonight, when he came into my bedroom and tried to egg me on. I just kept saying I will not talk to you unless someone can mediate for us, I don't want to be rude, but I am not going to answer any more questions.
Finally, when he told me I make him miserable by sitting around the house, I rolled over and didn't answer anything else. (And I guess by sitting around the house, he means taking down the tree by myself, food shopping, cooking the meals for the week, doing laundry and cleaning up the mess he and DD made.)
I actually chuckled when he said he didn't like either counselor because it's so obvious that he doesn't want to hear the truth.
So question for you all, do I let him come to the counselor appt tomorrow or will it be completely unproductive because he thinks I'm forcing him to go?
