This morning Mrs. T Apologized, promised it would never happen again (I made it clear that I won't tolerate it), and retracted her statements from the previous day.
She said "I want to stay married" and "I want to try to work on the M" - both things she has never said before. She agreed to work on her anger with her C.
At the same time I don't have much real hope for the M. She has made similar reconciliation noises before when we had blow ups, and they never came to anything.
For now, however, I have agreed with her that I will not proceed with D "at this time". I'll give it a bit more time (Gucci, it has been a bit more than a year, but not 2). I'm in no rush.
As far as the "hitting" - she is chastised and sorry. After my own "batsh!t crazy" period back in October I am readily able to move past one event. We each get a warning and we each understand that next time for either of us is going to be real trouble. The event itself was actually pretty surreal. She was out of control and whaling away, but it didn't hurt, most were easily deflected, and I never felt any real danger - more a feeling of astonished detachment.
So anyway, tomorrow I head out on another business trip.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.