LIMBO NO MO!

[Gardener]

gima,
I'm so glad you got away from it all for a bit. Good for you.

I can't imagine you talking down to anyone

I second that, fer sure.

I completely agree that my W is in full WAS mode right now and is saying things she knows are untrue to try to convince herself what she is doing is ok.

Exactly,, for the WAW it's all about THEM justifying their actions so they aren't the "bad guy"... In my sitch my WAS would have claimed the moon was made of green cheese if it would have justified/supported her actions in her mind...

Yep, they say things they know are untrue to try to convince themselves that what they are doing is OK. They try to justify what they're doing, even if it means misrepresenting the truth.

Some WAS's have this odd fantasy they can treat their spouse like a second class citizens, lie, cheat, steal <insert transgression here> but figure once a bit of time has passed things will be "all good" and let's be buddies.

AMEN, all!!! Why, just the other day in an email about D business, in a total non-sequitur, I was informed that our relationship was destructive, unhealthy and she acted in self-preservation! The WAS willjust keep going and going and going, like the Energizer Bunny!

Driving so I can't write much.

Driving? Hey, gima, don't write at all!