I can only say you must do what feels right in your own heart, which is often an answer that's right there. Without question. Period. Other times, it takes some soul searching.
This was one of the first questions I asked on this forum. Got much advice, someone even directed me to a thread on it (I forget it now. Anyone?)
I wound up taking mine off as a reminder of the "brutal reality" of my sitch and all that was at stake (sounds oxymoronic, I know)
Ultimately, months later I went to our favorite beach. Stood in the water about 30 feet out where years ago, as I watched her walking along the shore, "in the second that the hammer hits" (Elton John's The One) I realized I loved this woman.
And then and there, some 18 years later, I took off the ring, held it in my palm and let the ocean take it back.
I'm sorry to over-answer as always, bring it back to me, when this is about you. But I'm just a romantic ol' fool. And that's how I handled it.
Do what's in your heart.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
