She doesn't want you to leave but says it will never work, calls you names, accuses you of sleeping around, and now she's hitting you.
She's experiencing a lot of emotions with her mother's illness but there's no justification for taking it out on you or anybody else. None. (and BTW I lost my mom to an extended illness too).
After all this counseling, a weekend at Retro, and a whole lotta' time, she's continuing to use you as a scapegoat for everything wrong. She is emotionally stuck and can remain there as long as this limbo continues. She's cake-eating because she can treat you badly but doesn't have to face her problem(s) or consequences for her actions.
I know...harsh words but nothing has changed. It's just getting worse.
Hitting would have been the last straw for me; "I'm outta' here. Call me when you're ready to work it out."
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
