Wow- just WOW! "U r not a husband" WOW! Stunning really. (or maybe not....)

Something my H said to me last night (should have posted it in my update, now that I think about it...) he said "Who knows- maybe if you would have kicked me to the curb right away and held my feet to the fire, I would have come running back and we wouldn't be in this spot right now." (That "spot" being limbo.)
And now that 2.5 years has passed being in limbo, he is pretty comfortable having his cake and eat it too.

I think you are totally on the right track and showing great strength.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing