CW, even when DBing you need to communicate with H re: practical issues: finances, kids, household repairs etc. That is just a fact. So, don't go on and on... just be matter of fact, calm, even upbeat if you can. That is the trick. Be clear what you need, then don't pressure or bring up R talk. And, again... when he shows up, look great, smell great, have the house looking and smelling great, be chipper, light, busy... That's how to do it. YOu are doing great!
