My H's sister, who has been one of my main supports thru this sitch also had an A with a married man. When she saw what I was going thru, she had a whole new perspective on things. Just yesterday (which actually was part of what contributed to my day being rough) she admitted she and M man had remained in email contact, even tho he is still in his M and she is in a new R that has gotten very serious. I read her the riot act too, and she was very tearful about her realizations. I think she is seeing how selfish it is, and how unfair to everyone in the sitch. She is a good person, but she needs to address what is going on with her that she would make these choices. Actually, it is interesting because she and my H have been talking more and more about their childhood issues, wondering why both of them have made such bad choices in the last few years about R's when they both have previously had strong values and neither would have imagined themselves or each other making these choices.
Anyway, I do have a bit of time to myself today, so think I will write that letter, destroy it, and do my best to release it for now.
