Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

Sandi wrote in smartcookie's thread that the WAW is aware of her guilt and feels sorry but is very scared and confused that she needs understanding and space. I agree, my wife sees my hurt and it hurts her. Then I push to have us spend time or get back together but I don't act happy and in the moment all the time. When I do act happy and act as if all is good she moves towards me and away from OM. She did not seek validation from someone else because I was perfect. I was a controlling, and demeaning individual and I pushed her away from me. My wife chose the affair but I chose to weaken her mentally where the option was even in play in the first place.

Still reading smartcookie's post and learning, bear with me.