Refering back to the day you were served the D papers at the office and went home, and you wouldn't talk to W or even notice her, and then she whispered a rather choked "good-night" on her way to bed. Then she sends you the pictures of the kids, etc. I'm thinking that she has not faced the reality of what her life will be without you as her "buddy". You are a wonderful person and she may not want you for her H, right now, but you served a place in her life.....and she doesn't want you "completely" out of that spot.

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While I have a different view of that, it is clear from the date of the bomb, W never had any true desire to work on our M. She sees happiness on the other side of this. I know what awaits her, and it isn't pretty.


She thinks she will always have you as her best friend. I think she honestly was shocked when you came in from being served with D papers and didn't have anything to say to her! I believe she thought good ole GIMA would sit down an try to softly talk her out of it. IMO, that is why she felt that emotion when she started to bed and whispered the good-night. She just didn't expect the response you gave. I know, it sounds crazy to expect any other reaction, but she isn't logical.

I may stand alone on this, but I don't think you should have even responded with an "OK" on the phone when she sent the TM. Ignore her GIMA. She can't stand that. Didn't you see how it affected her that night? If you are ever....EVER going to show her how life without GIMA will be after the D, it is now or never. Stop being nice and don't feel that you have to give her a response just b/c she sent you something on the phone.

When you go home, don't eat with her, don't even talk to her or stay in the same room if you don't have to. Go as dark as the night.


P.S. (Maybe it was Ready2Change that said I was sarcastic. smile Doesn't matter, both of you are my sweeties.)

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!