He is a very good liar... he even lied about leaving. I asked him if he was packing..(I have good intuition)He said NO, just cleaning up, at 11 am , and he was gone by 7am the next morning. ??? Why lie about that...just a new habit for him I guess.
I would have to be a better spy and computer hacker I suppose. 1. get rid of "secret phone". 2. Hand over all passwords. 3. Take me or one of the kids along on strange errands.
Alot of them will relate to his "affair behaviors". No phone in the bathroom sounds a bit extreme but that is what I would need to have happen to assure me he wasn't texting her in there.
For some strange reason, he feels entitled to trust. Last Mar after the first return, He disappeared for an afternoon, and I asked him if he was with her. He said "see, it was a test, because she is out of town and he wanted to see if I would think they were together"...a test!!! Of my trust in him!!! I told him he didn't have to test me. I would tell him there wasn't any trust and I would assume if he wasn't with me, I would assume he was with her, if I didn't have any other way to know otherwise.
A transparency plan would have to be very detailed and long, I think.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
