Wife, I have decided that you will honor your agreement that the kids will remain in their home. Your decision to use them in this way (promised sleepover, last minute announcement) is incredibly disrespectful to me and to them and I will not brook it.
SpinFree
"Brook"??
One can't "decide" what someone else will do or won't do. Boundary-laying is about deciding what YOU will (or will not) abide.
"Wife, I will not tolerate the children being used in this way. When you don't live up to what you agreed to do, and make me look like the bad guy for them not having their sleepover, you're harming them, and their relationship with me, and I know that's not what you want. We both only want what's best for them, and we need to get better at this. If you continue to do that, I will do what I need to do to protect them."
