Matilda, Aud, Jak, Doc, and DB Friends, My W and I leave for Puerto Rico tomorrow. We have been studying Spanish together. I doubt if I'm ready to engage in dialogue with a Spanish speaking person. My W is impressed that I'm willing to venture beyond the big city to explore the island.
My W's friend has returned from PR. She has increased clarity about his character and its impact on her. She mentioned that her eating habits have improved during the time he's been gone. She realizes that he has little to offer as a friend. She is planning on asking him to reimburse her for expenses incurred from their last PR trip. He and his W are no longer in the same household. He is left to try and sell their home. He is unemployed due to poor judgment on his part. I see him as someone who will have to experience the consequences of poor life choices, and make some significant changes.
He tells my W that he is depressed, which pulls on her heart strings. She will continue to have some involvement with him. She has a pattern of wanting to help people who have hit bottom in their lives. She will have to learn, and hopefully is learning, that one can help those in need, but boundaries need to be in place, otherwise one is no longer helping but serving as a distraction. I will let her make her own decisions regarding this.
I've started sleeping in the main bedroom full time. I now go to bed there, even if my W is not ready to retire. She has started to cuddle with me.
We're taking a laptop with us, so I may give status updates from Puerto Rico. There are snow flurries here, following a three inch snowfall, with a temperature of 14 degrees this morning. It will be nice to miss a week of the winter season.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
