Its been a few days. We had a conversation about the LL book. I brought it up to her one night this week and she was surprised. We talked about what our love languages were and the conv went well. Later on she said that she was testing me b/c she didn;t think that I had the time to read the whole book. When the conv went a little deeper she said she was surprised that I could talk on that level too. Yesterday we went to a writing day through Retrovaille. We wrote our story. It was hard facing up to the things that I did to her and how I treated her. I felt that she was being honest and I know that I was. We have a long drive back from Retro. and this is where I am looking for advice:
She started to tell me about how she was hurt in the past b/c of some of my actions. I did not want to rehash the past problems and she said that she wants to have closure. I tried to stay focus on my actions but I think that she wants to relive the past. We got into an argument but later we both apologized for not seeing each others POV.
How could I handle this differently?
Do we need to relive the past or should we be solution focused?
Things are looking up but I need to get some input on how to continue to work on me and also reconcile the relationship. (finding a balance)
Any advice?
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
