Today was so good. I focussed on me and S and had a wonderful day. Worked on really calming the panic button = which got pushed when I txted H to invite him to the park with S and I. When I didn't hear back, I went into rejection mode - turned out H didn't receive the message and was actually hoping to join us! (I saw on his phone the message never went through). So another lesson on not going into panic. H came over at night, was very nice and we watched out shows - an old evening routine that I'm thrilled we've taken up again.
And, after working all day on calming self and enjoying ME time, I wasn't ruffled when H was a bit sharp in the tongue. He's much better - not the anger and nastiness of the last four months - but still that sharp tongue can set me off. I was so calm I just tried to listen to what he meant and not the way he was talking and the rest rolled off my back.
I did it LR! I think I'm really getting the hang of this!