Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok,

I wanted to write an update or synopsis of where my sitch is right now.

W told me she didnt love me anymore in October. We were having problems since August.

Begged, pleaded, cried to W to stay with me.

Found DB, started to post.

Hired PI to confirm A. A confirmed first week of Dec. Gave W "I won't share you with another man" boundary - got laughed at, told that she wasn't seeing anyone.

I involve OM chain of command, OM tells W about PI. Not sure if A has stopped.


Went home on R & R 2nd week of Dec. Spent great time with boys, then W sends me pic of OM #2 that lives in Dallas, same guy buys my W a black onyx ring for X-mas. I again establish boundary that I will not share her with another man. She says they are "just friends", and that they "only" kissed. Ya right.

2 days before I am scheduled to return overseas, W aske me to meet her for drinks so we can talk.

I agree, we cry, we agree to counseling etc. We ML, all seems good. W denies any A, and deflects any blame from herself back onto me. I allow her to do that-not sure why.

I leave country. Immediately I sense a change in my W. She is indifferent towards me, and finally tells me on Monday last week that she is done, as she can't get over the fact that I don't trust her, and I hired a PI.

Since last Tuesday, I am dark. Have spoken to my boys off and on due to work.

Not sure where my sitch goes from here. I have busted the A's that I KNOW of.

It just seems to me, that right now, my W doesn't CARE if I know she is doing this stuff.

So, what do I do now?

I am deployed, I am not at home, she is doing the same things she was doing before I went home, but is even more set on getting D.

I am sure there is nothing I can do to stop her from having any more A's.

What can I do to save my M now? I'm not sure there IS anything I can do...