Well, my home improvement plans were cut short when I was greeted at the front door today by a process server. The last of the CC bills in my name that H has neglected decided to sue. And of course that means they served me, not my H that created this entire mess. I was very upset and texted, then called H for an explanation. I wasn't yelling but was sobbing, but he definitely knew I was upset. He said "if I had the money don't you think I would pay the bills?". Um.. no, actually I don't know that. In fact, he is going to WY on a big ski trip tmrw so that explains the lack of funds - but doesn't excuse it. I hope the long road trip gives him some time to think about what he's doing and how it impacts others.
So, I went to my S18's varsity bball game tonight. He started and played well so I'm glad I went. I know things will seem better in the morning, and especially on Monday when I can reach the CC attorney's office and see what options I have. The only way to possibly get H to pay what he should is to file, get D's, then seek a judgment and hope the judge awards garnishment of his wages. Lots of if's and he doesn't really make enough to make this a feasible option. So, I just have to assume responsibility for this bill/suit, as I did for the others H can't manage.
The challenge is to not be bitter, angry, spiteful, etc. I have been in a good place about H - feeling patient, willing to wait for H to work thru his MLC and see what we can rebuild. I am still there, despite the service today, but it's not easy.
Going to church tmrw - they are having a visiting pastor tmrw and I could use some inspiration!
