Let him go. If he ever says he wants to reconcile again, you need to ask for FULL TRANSPARENCY.
Have you ever had a transparency plan as part of these waltzes back home?
Puppy
No. We have IC's who are partners and communicate. We(I) was waiting for them to give the ok for joint sessions to begin processing what's happened to our marriage. Duh!!! That wasn't happening because WH was still involved w/ OW. My IC doesn't say much to me so I think his IC is just not giving him much guidance. His head is way up his B^%$. I forgot to mention that, last year, shortly b4 Christmas, he suggested moving her into our home as cook and kid helper. Said she would be a good influence on kids! (They are both PhD's!!) He brought this up again last month! I said bring it! Let's call her right now! He backed off! ROFL!!!
I doubt he will want to come back this time. I am afraid to think about it. I suppose our IC's could help us hammer out a plan. He has to give her up totally and I do not see that happening. She seems very much in control of his thoughts and actions. I am losing interest in the man he has become. Maybe if he was living by himself for awhile, spend some time pursuing me, I would consider talking about him returning.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
