Don't know where to post this.

[TrentC]

Things got better and then I pressured and pursued and tried to make her jealous. Now things are worse. I will make a plan and they will be better again. No timeline set I just figure a minimum of 6 months to make changes in me that will have positive impact. This took a long time to fall apart. It will not be healed overnight.

Just for the record, I'm 4 1/2 months past the bomb.

It may seem like it takes forever to make improvements, but when you look back you may be surprised how fast things have improved.

But you still both need IC, in addition to MC.

And I don't remember if I said this, but it's probably not a great idea for your wife to see the MC as her IC; when I asked my IC about it, she said I should look for a separate MC because there would be a perception that my IC is on "my side" when seeing her as an MC.