@Awoken-- thank you for not taking what I was saying the wrong way. I mean, I really felt awful for you and your children and I guess my hackles got up. And you just said it with your last post "I don't think this is the solution". That is what I felt was "missing."

I 'get' that your wife is her own person and you can respect that she is her own person with her own choices to make and maybe that is what the kids walked away with. They have a lot to process right now and it is good that they have each other to lean on.

YOU can get thru this; you are a good man. You can look in the mirror and know that you tried. ((Awoken))

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing