Mike funny you should say that...the night I gave Dan the dissolution papers to look over, before we got the official draft, I asked him (I don't cared if I get 2 x 4'd I felt I had the right)
"Will you just say to my face, 'I don't want you to be my wife and I don't want to be your husband'?"
Because he has been so avoidant, with convenient little phrases like, "I don't know how to fix things" or "It is what it is", and "I don't like it, I hate it but I don't know how to fix it" etc etc.
He has never come right out and said "I want a divorce"although he has said, "I don't want a divorce" a dozen times... And since I got to be the one to hire the attorney, sit there in meetings and hammer out the framework of ending my marriage when I didn't even want it to end, etc etc, I felt he ought to be able to at least say one sentence to own this thing.
Well that night he said, "I won't ever be able to say that" and he got up and left. Nice...
Anyway back to the current time. Dan left last night to go to Denver for 9 days for a huge livestock show and sale. He was here Thursday night but I stayed out of the way the whole time and fell asleep on the couch before he came out of the kids' room from putting them to bed...
Anyway I had given him the official final draft on Tuesday and he said he would sign it in front of the notary and give it back to me on Wednesday. Then he called Wednesday and said he was going to spend the evening doing laundry and packing for the trip, and come over Thursday. Then Thursday, I woke up as he was getting his coat to leave. He said bye and he would call when he got to Denver, and he left. I realized after he left that he never gave me the signed papers...
Question: Do I address that with him while he is gone? Or wait till he gets back? Or what?
Thing is the atty was going to try to make it effective Jan 1 so we could file next year's taxes totally separately...now this thing is pushed back to at least Jan 18. UNLESS he signed the paper and left it at his parents' house or at work, in which case I could go get it while he was gone and get my side of it signed and finished. So do I bring it up?
Oh and sorry I haven't posted much. Nathan was sick Monday-Friday with strep and pinkeye and I have been exhausted and freezing! No school Wed-Fri thanks to the freezing temps!
