She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

Trixi,
I appreciate your what you are saying. I guess the message that I was trying to give what that I respected that my wife had made a decision. Unfortunately, both my kids already know intimately that I did not want a divorce.

I knew this conversation was coming...someday (I was still surprised it was today!). I've been rehearsing/researching it for the past week, reading many threads here. Here's what I've been thinking: Both my kids still strongly identify with my W, and its important to me that they have a good relationship with her. My W has done a lot over the past 3 months to injure her relationship with them, and I'm sure today didn't help. I have a feeling that my kids sense/feel that they made up of 50% W and 50% me. Any anger with W (or me!) may ultimately come back on themselves. I don't want to teach them how to "dismantle a family", but it looks like they are getting the lesson no matter what I do. I'm trying to balance what is causing the least damage I suppose.

I know I have more conversations in the immediate future with them. Please keep talking; I need the input!