For me-- I don't want my kids to think I 'respect' bailing on a commitment. "Gee, Son, you committed to playing baseball this season, but since it doesn't make you happy, go ahead and quit. I respect that."
"Sure, you borrowed that money and should pay it back, but since it is impinging on your going out to party, I agree that you shouldn't pay it back. I respect that."
Yes, I'm sure he loves her, and I am sure he wants her to be happy, but that doesn't mean you 'respect' how someone chooses to achieve that. Prescription drugs "make people happy" but it's not good for them.
I'm probably getting stuck on semantics or something. I totally think it's great that the kids were told they were loved by both...but the other.... just doesn't sit right with me. I think silence would have been better on the subject of respect.
edited to add-- Just because you don't "respect" the choice someone made doesn't mean that you don't love them or want them to be happy.
Last edited by Trixi; 01/10/1012:41 AM.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
