Remove yourself from this situation, regardless if you want to date other women or not, just limit contact with her, tell her she can have the OM but you're not going to be part of an open relationship with her and the OM from now on, you have too much dignity & self-respect to allow that to be part of your life. As for the kids, tell her if she wants to see the OM that's her choice but she isn't bringing the kids to see him anymore, that's your decision, you won't have them exposed to her crazy behavior and that environment with a stranger (OM) - that's just horrible for the kids to be exposed to that.
Is good advice. What we need to do with is fine tune it. It will need to be tweaked for finesse. You now know that going completely dark is detrimental. A fine balance needs to be found.
Another thing that you need to do is make this ALL HER CHOICE. I haven't read everything on your thread yet because I'm both pressed for time and to tell you the truth I'm growing weary.
I'm prepared to help you, but you're going to have to draft the plan and post it here. I will pinpoint areas that need to be softened up or hardened. Do not fly off the handle and react. Your plan will need to be tweaked as we progress and you measure your results.
The technique here would be to take both Trent's (softer side) and Rob's (harda$$ approach) and balance it out.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
