my W came home, and we called our kids down to the living room. W tell them that "mom and dad are getting a divorce" and looks at me and says "what do you want to add?". I said "please tell them what we agreed upon". After many seconds of awkward silence, she tells them "I filed for divorce on Monday". I then told them "I love your mother and I want her to be happy.I respect her decision. We both love you very much."
Okay, I admit, I am not a good DB'er..But.. WHY would you "respect" her decision?! How do you respect someone's choice to dismantle the family? And why say that you love her and want her to be happy? You love your kids and eating ice cream 24/7 would "make them happy", but you wouldn't endorse it, would you?
I'm sorry for what you are going thru- I know it must hurt like he11-- I just feel like your wife is getting off the hook for the CHOICES SHE IS MAKING!
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
