Susan, yes check out survivinginfidelity.com and marriagebuilders.com but don't abandon us completely! There are, sadly, many others who have had similar situations as yours. Some are choosing to stick by their spouse.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
