Don't know where to post this.

[loveherstill]

robx and trentc I know you can help as I have been following your threads for over a month and reading advice from others.

Remember though the MC says this is a little different because I was in control during the relationship and that is what she is rebelling against.

My 180 was to move and lay finance and house decisions on her but only give her enough money to make bills.

I also have always demanded to know her whereabouts even before affair started, so I am trying to detach and be loving and available when she wants.

She has never been alone. Even when a kid, since 14 she has never went longer than a week without a boyfriend.

She was sodimized at 14 by two of her dad's drug buddies, beat as a child (broken nose, etc.), and raped by a classmate at 16.

She has a few issues that may require different handling, but I do not know. I am new here and just struggling and scared.

I did act very happy to see her when she was here. Tomorrow when she picks up the kids she will be feeling guilty and I will not be bubbly and happy, I want her to feel her guilt.

She did say that she felt that all I was ever interested was sex and it can be a turn off. She is a lower drive (once a week or once every 10 days good for her) while I prefer once a day but can easily survive with once every 3 days or so.

That has caused a disconnect. She does not go see om even half as often as her time allows and neglects him at times to only hear his words. She is clearly seeking validation of her beauty.

I need to be less available for sex until she comes back my way?
That I can do.

As far as the break it off slow thing, I agree but she has a hard time with this and has always either had to make a guy break up with her or let him down slowly. Dumbest thing I ever heard but I have known her since she was 14.