Ok, I understand. In the beginning I tried to play a head game with jealously about the female friend and it back fired. The MC who sent me to this site and got me into the books said that demanding an immediate stop to the affair would just push them together because of her depth in the fog. I was the controlling one in the relationship and the MC thinks this is a game from her to prove control. W has said that this is no game but it is her control. I have been bleeding the money supply down to enough for bills only so that she has to feel some consequences.
Tonite she is going to see om and like an idiot I just sat and watched a movie with her while cuddling and we kissed passionately a few times.
Me tearing her self esteem was a mistake and I had a few financial issues that made me feel less manly so I attacked her instead.
I want much more than sex with her I want true intimacy.
I have scheduled some IC for her and she says she wants to go.
Please tell me more or ask more because I want to save this relationship of 14 years.
Tell your wife that she should be with the OM, you won't stand in the way of her happiness.
You will also stop having sex with her, stop kissing her, hugging her, cuddling and all that other nonsense, these things are for people in a devoted, committed relationship, not for people in a crazy no holds barred open relationship.
She is cake eating. Cake eating literally means what it implies.
She's having the best of both worlds. A husband at home who is scared to lose her, and another man who isn't worried about losing her but is ready to give her the kind of sex she's been looking for in a long time.
You are the 2nd option. If you listen to us, you will no longer be the 2nd option, removing yourself from the list of options actually makes you more desirable because you will become something she can't have anymore.
If she is with the OM, I think you should start dating other women, I'm asking you to fall in love, kiss, have sexy time explosions, I'm just saying go out and meet other women.
No arguing with your wife anymore.
In fact cut the communications with your wife down substantially, let her pursue talking to you but don't initiate talking with her.
And this $hit about bringing the kids to the OM's home, you better put your f!@#$* foot down and tell her that this will happen NO MORE! Man you pissed me off something fierce when I read that, how could you allow that?! They are your kids for crying out loud!
