Coming up on One-Year of DB'ing...

[Gnosis]

and you can tell he has a slight edge in his voice.

That there was your red flag. You should have found something to get busy with at this point.

Well, he starts in on a topic, and is getting edgier, and I answer him, and give him a semi-sarcastic, "Geez!"

- 10 points for your response.
M, what were you trying to do? I can imagine that felt good to do, but do you realize what you did right there? You poked the five-headed resentment monster that we've been trying to put to sleep with all your hard work.

Here are the results:

blasts me for the GEEZ. <snip> I don't need to come home to THIS. Enough of your GEEZ. One more GEEZ and I'm turning around and leaving."

Mission accomplished?
How?
By stirring up all the resentment within him?

Don't make up excuses with the LOL... remember how we say any contact with OW resets the clock to zero? The same applies with pushing his buttons. In his mind you have taken a major step backwards and he restarts to justify why he doesn't love you anymore.

I just reply... "It must have been bad for you to be like this! I'll talk to you later!"

This should have been your response from before the conversation started getting edgy.

I go about my business, and he comes out of the shower. I act like the idiocy never happened. And, he's fine.

Why? Why? Why?
This was a PERFECT opportunity for you to lay down a boundary. You should have called him out on his behavior and apologized for yours.

I've now decided that I'm not take any of this personal. He, CLEARLY does this when he is dog tired from work.

Well... you knew this beforehand. You told us he gets cranky at this time of the year. So I'm placing the blame on you for this one because YOU KNOW BETTER.

Other days, I would have been reduced to tears.

This is your saving grace today. It shows some improvement on you.

You wanna be a freak!? Do it on your own, and come find ME when you need me because I'm not stickin' around to listen to it.

... you could have avoided all this tongue-in-cheek resentment that you have stirred up in your own mind.

Is that bitchy, db smart, or just plain psycho?

None of the above. I'll go with memory loss and dropping the ball.

Sorry, M, while it was humorous reading it... I'd be remiss if I didn't point out the error of your ways. For laying down your boundary tomorrow or Monday, make sure he's in a receptive frame of mind for it. Finding the correct timing has now more become more important.