Ok, so that's goal (1) down and I can make it happen immediately starting tonight.
Goal (2) is to get my rear back in the gym on Monday. I already have a membership and had been in a routine until late October when H and I actually went on a cruise and a million excuses have kept me from going back since.
Goal (3) I believe is to get my self-esteem issue faced head-on, which hopefully will be helped when I start working on myself physically again.
Since you think he is checking out again I would recommend the 48 hour rule. And it is a big deal if you feel it is. And you should discuss this with him.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!