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[gutwrenching]

Sandi and Lost
Thank you. I just smiled for the first time in a bit. In fact I had come down here to vent on the computer and you all made me smile.
I am waiting on the coffee cause I'm in a whale of bad mood. Sat morning here, youngest daughter has ballet lessons which W has been too 1 time in the last two to 2.5 months. This morning, I set the alarms, I am the responsible parent. I'm getting up and she asks me what I am going to do. I say I'm getting up to get D ready for dance lessons. She asks what do I want to do. I say calmly, it doesn't matter to me. I'm always happy to take her but if you would like some time to spend with her there, I'll stay here, or if best we can all go.
She tells me she'd like me to take her.

WHAT. You got to be kidding me. After all the role reversal BS I heard last night. She said she was afraid to drive because of the muscle relaxer she took last night after getting so pissed off.
Unfreaking believeable.

Sandi - I did wonder about no contact. The only thing that might be different is she came home in fine mood. I was following the advice. I sat down and she talked to me for a while. I thought things were going fine. Then I guess what set her off was the younger daughter did something wrong and I reminded younger daughter that we had talked about not doing that "issue" the night before and she knew better. That was me taking care of things she wanted too, but I already had and I guess it went downhill from there.
So who the heck knows.
I know I didn't get enough sleep and now I'm the one pulling the weight again today. So I'm in a foul mood. Need to get some coffee in me, need to get out of the house which I will do with the daughter for dance lessons. And snap out of this.

Lost - we both work in what I will term pretty high profile jobs. Our salaries are almost identical. So when it comes to bringing in the bacon, that is 50/50.
Over the years, W has done majority of parenting. I have worked hard at being a better parent, I have even told my wife in the past I wanted to be father of the year. I have made HUGE progress and the results to me are obvious and so rewarding. It is the kids that keep me going these days, they are my pride and joy. We are doing so well together, like never before.