OK, you definitely need to get a grip.

There is literally nothing you can do to change her behavior from where you are. All this worrying will just get you worked up to no avail.

You can't "fix" her. Not from Iraq, and not when you get home. Anyway, people don't want to be "fixed"; all trying will do is make her resent you even more.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."