I am a little concerned lately on the amount of energy and though that is going into the exes or whatever you guys want to call them. Also soem are spending an inordinate amount of time on the new "friends" in their lives (or the new old friends). I understand that this is a forum to vent and to perhaps receive some advice or support. However, when we give them so much space in our minds, we are doing ourselves a huge disservice. I am no expert but recently I have suggested that BBJ take a look at a website "getting past your past". I read it once in a while. I think it may help you as well. I may be out in left field here but since you are coming up on your 1st anniversary of your divorce, it may be time to make a consciuous effort to put your past where it belongs.....behind you.
