You sound stronger this week. Yes, your h needs to definitely grow up and become a mature adult.
The dance/game that most of them play w/us is called the distancer/pursuer game. There are some postings in the archieves about that little game. The more you distance and when they sense it, the more they will try to suck you back into the game or, should I say drama. You, as the lbs, will need to find a way to break that little dance pattern. You can do this by not taking the bait when he pulls his drama out of the bag.
When children are involved, it is very difficult to go completely dark and dim will probably be the best way to go. You have a good handle on your situation and yes, you are detaching very well. You h doesn't know how to process this new behavior that you are exhibiting. He doesn't feel comfortable at all about how you are reacting to him and his behavior and that's good. You are taking the focus that you were putting on him and putting it elsewhere which is what we all have had to learn to do.
I hope you have some fun things planned for the weekend. You deserve a break from the MLC madness.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
