Just got your message over on my place. I've got to take a break, but I'll be back later and catch up. I did grab one bit that I saw a quote you made about W saying you talked down to her. I have read tons of posts from you and the worst thing I ever heard you say was that Sandi could be a bit sarcastic....
Sweetie, I can't imagine you talking down to anyone especially the woman you adore. As you've heard me say before, it is some of the junk a WAW has to come up with to sling in the face of her H so she won't feel so rotten. She is trying to make herself believe her own lies.
I'll talk to you in a while. Got to take a break from the computer.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!