Treese, You are blessed in some many areas of your life: 1) three beautiful children who love you; 2) you have your health and a job; 3) you have your home and have the intelligence to know how to keep things in good working order; and 4)you have your parents and friends who are there for you whenever you need them.
I read where there was some issue about a Christmas gift given to your son and not to your daughters. I know that you were furious about the way it was handled, but as you know, none of us has control over the behavior of others. If you had issues with the gift and if you had a good relationship w/your inlaws, you could have spoken to them about it, otherwise beat the crap out of a pillow or come here and talk about it. Venting to him about his mother and her behavior did nothing and just frustrated you all the more. I do understand why you felt the way you did....just try not to vent to him about things that neither of you has any control over. If you want to have a relationship w/your h in co-parenting in a kind way, you will need to find a way to channel your frustration and anger into an area that you can control. The more you vent and point the finger at him, the more he's going to stay away and not deal w/you on any level and the more he will feel justified in what he's done and continues to do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
