Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi, once again thank you for your advice. Keep the 2x4s coming.

In my state, a couple has to be separated for one year before D can be filed. So right now she is asking for separation agreement. I don't have to sign as it dosesn't really matter for the legal time to get D. So right now she can't do much of anything.

I do need to go back to NC, you're right again. I need to concentrate on me. I would like to get to the point where I can accept that it might take 2 years and if takes a shorter amount of time then great.

To be honest, I'm not sure if I told my W that I was willing to sign separation agreement and also told her about dating other people that it would shock and or giver her a sense of loss right now? She seems so focued on her that I think she would just say ok and wish me the best. I don't know?

When we talked on the phone a couple days again about the meeting, my W told me that we are in two different places right now. I'm sure she meant that this is what she wants and I don't. I will take the advice of my new friends on this board and be strong, go NC and take care of myself. I will continue to pray that one day my W will come around but not obsess on it anymore.