Lost, There is absolutely no way to learn their behaviors along the way, each individual is different because their childhood issues are different. Your h in one conversation can be as nice as can be, but if you raise the relationship issue or something he doesn't want to discuss turn nasty as heck and if you change the subject, back to being nice again. They are operating on emotions not general rational, sane minds.
Read the archives, read up on depression and I do not mean just what is on the internet, get some books and read them. Then, you'll have a better understanding what may be going on. Also, a man's depression can be very different from a woman's.
Please try to understand that there is no rhyme or reason to what they say or do because it's all emotionally charged and we all know how we get when our emotions get the best of us. It's best to try to focus on you, your family and if you work, your job.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
