how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[courageous wife]

Hi AV...

I am reading your thread for the first time and we are kinda going thru the same thing right now. I am doing NC with my H too and it is so hard. Like you said "poof" and they are gone. My H also left. I assume he is staying with the OW. He didn't say and I didn't ask. So much good advise here. It took me awhile to figure that out! Hang in there~

[chatterbug]

How are you doing aver?

[avermont]

Hey Cutterbug--

thanks for checking in.

I did a long reply to P17 in "infidelity" last night.

Trying to post over there now as per your kind invite.

RW--I am trying to think of a new thread, and then figure out how to link them. Thanks for checking in.

[me12]

Hi avermont

I guess I am in the same boat, some days I think I am strong enough to carry on and other days I am not. I too, have to make those choices, whether to wait until he decides to go to this other women, or tough love it....it is so hard for me especially when he is living 5 minutes from where I live...

I try not to call, but calling always wins...I am sure though you will make the right choice, and you sound like a very STRONG person...

I to need to be less available to my H, which like I said is so hard for me, I would also like to be my old self again and look great the way I use to

I also hope you have a great day, and thank you so much for your story and the many other people, in days that I feel crappy they help me in so many ways....thank you