She called when we were on the way to dinner and wanted to meet us there (she said she was just going to pop in real quick). I said "sure". We were there for about an hour and she never showed. On the way home she called to ask if we were still there and mentioed she was stuck in traffic. She sounded bummned that she was going to the miss the kids so I guess I beleive this. I told her it was no big deal since she was only going to pop in anyway and that she would have a good weekend with the kids. She then called at home (and left a message) to tell the kids she missed them.
We she said she was just going to "pop in" that made me a little uncomfortable. If she wants to say hi to the kids, she should stick around for awhile and make it an actual visit. For example, I asked her if I could stop by her house on Sunday and help put the kids to bed (about an hour-and yes, I know I am breaking my own boundaries). This is a real visit in my mind. In anycase, I am going to stop this "pop in" thing. If she wants to come over for an ocassional dinner or soemthing, I am cool with that.
