LIMBO NO MO!

[SoldierDad]

GIMA,

I have been following along, I have a few questions:

In my sitch, I KNOW my W is hurting, I understand and accept that. If the WAS is hurting so bad, what keeps them from doing whatever it takes to heal that pain?

In my sitch, my W opened up to me-well, it SEEMED that way, and then completely boarded up that house after I left.

Was this her way of validating what she was doing? Did she FEEL better after reeling me back in, and then causing me more pain with her 180?

Didn't mean to hijack, just wanted to weigh in and maybe get some help.

Thanks for your input.

[givingitmyall]

Serenity,

Do you FB?if so, do a search on GivingIt MyAll.

Embracing the suck, I think means letting your emotions run their course. You allow it to run its course b/c you can handle it.

God never gives us more than we can handle.

[Serenity13]

(((GIMA)))

Thank you for the explanation - I can't FB - Makes me ill just going there (H met the OW there) and I promised Puppy I would stay off...Ok well then I can embrace the suck

No He sure doesn't and I for one am glad He never gives it to us all at once either lol!

[givingitmyall]

Hi SD.

Ok, the WAS is hurting. The way I have best seen this explained is that they only see one option (D) b/c the pain of staying is greater than the pain of leaving. So, they do have pain, but to them, the remedy is to leave what they perceive is the source of that pain - the M.

As far as why your W acted like all was well, then did an about face, I don't know. Maybe to gain an advantage in the D from a legal standpoint. Maybe she was lonely. Who knows.

[SoldierDad]

GIMA,

thanks. I need to let go of the "why" stuff. If you don't mind, I will look you up on FB soon.

Thanks again.

[givingitmyall]

Serenity,

I understand. I am not big into fb either.

[Serenity13]

GIMA ~

I used to have a MS however H met his high school GF there...

Then the middle school GF on FB so now I avoid all of them lol..

Keeps me saner that way

[givingitmyall]

SD,

Feel free to look me up.

The "why" question will haunt you. Its normal, but if you can get past that, it gets easier.

Whenever I got too much into the "why," I invariably focused on the worst case scenario and only ended up spinning myself into further worry. Very non-productive.

95% of what we worry about never comes true.

[givingitmyall]

Serenity,

I understand. I never ventured into MS or any of the other sites.

[TrentC]

GIMA ~

I used to have a MS however H met his high school GF there...

Then the middle school GF on FB so now I avoid all of them lol..

Keeps me saner that way

I created an alter ego on FB that isn't tied to my actual FB account at all. So I don't see stuff for the "real me" and no one sees what my psuedonym is up to.