Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Steve M, the HS friends my W has been reconnecting with on FB are all married with chidlren. They all seem like your average people in terms on wealth, status, etc. She also added friends that she used to work with about 6-8 years ago to her FB. I don't think she even posts much at all to these HS or old work friends, she just added them. The old work friends she added she never even really talked to that much when she knew them. Stange. Not really sure why she feels the need to try to connect with these people...MLC?

Sandi, as always thank you for you feedback. I do need to protect myself with the money. My W is being extremely controlling. I have decided not to meet with her this weekend. It's been a long week at my new job and I need to do a lot of work this weekend for it. I also need to catch up on some much needed rest and make some time for me!

I agree that her father will probably put his two cents in to the conversation. He would step in if I tried to persuade her to do something...I agree. My W has always had insecurity problems.

When I emailed my W a couple of nights ago about the meeting, I also included a few things about wanting to see if she would be willing to take some time apart before making any decision about a divorce. I told her that I didn't want her to regret her decision down the road because she thinks she is convinced this is what she wants now. I also mentioned a few other things that I love her and I want her to be happy. We have been emailing back and forth today about this meeting and each time I have asked her if she read my email with my thoughts. She responds about the meeting but never answers my question if she read my email regarding my thoughts. I've asked her somevery light personal stuff in the past emails about how's she doing etc. She never responds to those things. She can't give me much of anything personal right now. Is this normal at this stage?

Sandi, with all of these things my W is doing right now, can she get past this stage and begin to think clearer about marriage. Obviously she has a huge wall up about this marriage. I realize this marraige is dead but I'm referring to creating a new marriage with her. I'm committed on my end to contiinue to fight for this marriage. Just trying to keep hope alive right now as it's clear my W is only focued on herself right now. I'd like to ask her again if she would be open to taking a break for a few months and we have little to NC. Then we could talk with a MC and perhaps at least begin to communicate with each other. Might be worth a shot or now is not the right time. Basically I'd like her to at least consider some stress free time away from each other and maybe this will help her to begin to soften? What I would really like to ask her is if we knew of my depression a year ago would she have given me time back then to see if the meds would have helped me get back to my old self? If the answer is yes, then why would she not give me time now? I've done so many positive changes since going on my depression meds. I'm sure my W thinks I did all of this changes because she left but I beleive I am able to make these changes with the help of the meds. I couldn't have done all of these changes in the place I was in for the past two years.

Again, any advice is always welcome!