I agree, but it seems right now that my whole life has been defined wrongly by me and I feel pretty vulnerable and raw. Need to figure out how to see the good and not set myself up in bad situation.
Also trying to sort out to think about my situation and what will work? Do I think about what works for me or do I maturely compromise on getting some of what I want and dealing with "H" problem. All the family and friends I referred to may or may not have had significant problems - the difficulty for me is that my H has a several significant problems. What information do I make my decisions based on? I hear so many references to being happy as a goal - I love this man but his problems are extreme and harmful to our relationship. No one can give answers to my questions but some ideas or reactions might help me.
