It may be time to start prepping the dissolution papers.
I had thought we were going to give ourselves a 4 - 6 month separation, and then talk and re-evaluate. Maybe try MC again at that point. Now he's saying maybe there is no point to that, things never changed and we talked for over a year. No final decision yet, but I may as well start preparing. He also gave me the name of an atty he consulted back in Sept, and asked if we had a case against them recently because she was familiar with my firm (I'm a paralegal). I said yes, a couple of years ago... My thought bubble was "oh, great" when I heard who it was- she is very familiar with my firm because we prosecuted a malpractice case against them for our client (it settled), so I'm pretty sure we're on her sh!tlist... At least he didn't go to the biggest shark in town.
If we can agree on everything, we can file for a dissolution rather than a contested divorce, so that's the goal we'll be aiming for. We don't have any formal agreements right now for the current situation.
I also told him that I was walling myself off from remnants of the "lifestyle"- certain recent events reminded me of why I was so unhappy before. He then said he was considering dropping his single male profile because he just wasn't having any luck and was looking into regular dating sites. OK, whatever, he's moving on, good luck with that. He hasn't looked deep inside himself to really examine what happened to our M, at least from what I can tell. It starts and stops with my alleged issues, and in all our discussions, he couldn't get past that. He could never talk about his role.
