I can't believe it, all of you veterans posting till your blue in the face, all of you forgot #1 rule when dealing with a "WAW", stop pursuing her ;-)
She's made up her mind, allow her to make that choice, stop disagreeing with her, wish her well and let her be - that's it.
I called it first...
Originally Posted By: Gnosis
blah... blah... blah... blah... blah... blah...
I can't believe I wasted my time reading all this! I've had more than my fair share of dealing with hardhearted, stubborn, mule-headed and obstinate women who don't know WTF they want.
I'd rather get involved with someone's thread who knows what they want and help them get it.
Good luck KS.
Boo hoo no one gives me credit anymore... not even the LBS's
I can't believe it, all of you veterans posting till your blue in the face, all of you forgot #1 rule when dealing with a "WAW", stop pursuing her ;-)
She's made up her mind, allow her to make that choice, stop disagreeing with her, wish her well and let her be - that's it.
I called it first...
Originally Posted By: Gnosis
blah... blah... blah... blah... blah... blah...
I can't believe I wasted my time reading all this! I've had more than my fair share of dealing with hardhearted, stubborn, mule-headed and obstinate women who don't know WTF they want.
I'd rather get involved with someone's thread who knows what they want and help them get it.
Good luck KS.
Boo hoo no one gives me credit anymore... not even the LBS's
Sorry G, I just noticed that, I'll give it to you, you called it first, don't get all angry and unfriend me on crackbook ;-)
No matter what I do, what I try, what I say... it's never enough. Honest, I tried everything. I worked all day, came home, ran her bath, cooked, washed the dishes, did the laundry, cleaned the toilets. I swear, I did everything but it was never enough because she would never stop nagging...
until...
One day this girl at the office started paying attention to me. I mean... she really needed me. She said things to me that I hadn't heard from my wife's lips in a LOOOOONG time. She made me feel like a man...
and then I fell for it. I dunno why, but... it just happened. Before I knew it I slipped and fell in bed with her. Just like that... and the darned floor was covered in massage oil. Every time I tried to get back up, I kept on slipping... until one day I managed to get out. And then... I realized... I loved my wife... and lived with the guilt. Until I summoned up my courage and told her all. I put myself in her hands and begged for forgiveness...
or something along those lines.
Disclaimer: I, Gno, in no way condone his actions... and I'm mind-reading BIG TIME here.
I'm so glad that divorce is a big frigging joke to the people who are making up fiction about why my stbx cheated. How about taking that same disgusting letter and put your WIFE in that. Did your wife fall in oil and have an affair bc you were controlling and not good enough?
Oh, wait, not so funny anymore? YOUR situation is different, right?
I found this website when I googled "divorce support forums" and I thought it would be a place where I could get insight into how other people handled such a devestating situation. Instead, it's nothing but namecalling, made-up assumptions, and 14-year-old boy behavior. And these are the people who are giving advice? Really?
I looked at the threads from some of the mean-spirited posted, and to be honest, that nastiness has nothing to do with my situation at all. They either don't have the courage or strength to say simple things like "It's the other person or me." or "I'm worth more than being cheated on."
They are being ugly to me but can't even stand up to the people they had children with. Does it feel good to bully someone else since your own wayward spouse seems to be bullying you?
It's not a proud moment in my life, and yes, I am filing for divorce. It's sad and terrible and I wish with all my heart that I wouldn't be in this situation, but I am. Unlike Mr. Robx, who has written posts and posts about how much he's grown in the past year after he found out his wife had an affair, he's still leaving his kids and marriage in limbo. That's just cruel.
I'm not that cruel to the father of my kids; depending on the mediation and the way his attny handles it, hopefully we'll be legally divorced by the Spring. I am not going to harm my children by dragging out this farce.
This is not some power-play to make my husband grovel or beg or ignore me to make me come back. Maybe that's why all those nasty posters are still hurting or trying to manipulate their own wayward spouses. Marriage, a good marriage anyway, is one where you aren't trying to "get one over" on your partner. You aren't faking it til you're making it. You're being honest.
What is hurting the most is that I'm thinking my stbx might actually believe advice like this, and it will just make the divorce worse. If he stopped tomorrow from sending sad emails, it wouldn't snap me back to him.
I'm not trying to control him, but since he won't file for divorce, I will.
Being married is not the goal, the end-all destination. It's the function, the by-product, of two people committed to each other.
Side note: whoever does the coding of this website might need to rethink it. Like I said, I googled "divorce support forum" and this came up. But it seems that this is not about supporting those who want to divorce at all. The site itself seems riddled with lies, even to search engines.
Boo hoo no one gives me credit anymore... not even the LBS's 
thanks.